I heard a lady the other day talk about how her day “went sideways” due to fighting with her husband. It’s been awhile since I have heard that phrase and it got me thinking about how relationships with narcissists create this notion of “going sideways.”
I looked up the meaning of this phrase and it basically had words like “a challenge, not going as expected, tense, and creating chaos.” I thought yep, this is a good way to describe life with a narcissist. They sure do all of those things. They are challenging beyond what you can imagine. Life doesn’t move forward in a positive way but instead explodes like a firecracker with the debris blowing, yes you guessed it, sideways. The end result after the explosion is just that, a mess to clean up and nothing to show for it except a memory of a loud bang. A bang you don’t want to hear. They create tension among many people and chaos to distort reality and to launch smear campaigns.
Has your life gone sideways? Did you give up your dreams? Have you lost your identity? Are you depressed most days and don’t understand why? Do you feel like that firecracker debris lying there just waiting for a breeze to blow you around because you are just existing and not living with positive intention?
It’s time to stop blowing around in circles in a whirlwind of chaos. It’s time to put the stick in gear and go forward with the life you were intended to have. I hope my blog sheds light on narcissism in a way that is relatable and digestible enough to make a difference in many lives. I encourage you to not be pushed sideways in a toxic relationship. Moving forward in life is how dreams come true, peace prevails, and happiness is restored. I wish that for all narcissistic abuse survivors out there.
Blessings,
Ilaya (Author of The Chameleons Among Us)
Shedding Light on the Narcissist 