A weapon is something used to injure, defeat, or destroy. Usually it’s a physical object, but it doesn’t always have to be a concrete object. Those of us who have dealt with a narcissist know this first hand.
Narcissists use many tactics to harm their victims or to rise above others at least in their minds. I call these tactics emotional weapons. Let that sink in. Some of their tactics are so subtle that they are hard to detect, but nonetheless can be placed in this category. Narcissists love to create chaos, especially emotionally. They act in a way to cause a myriad of negative emotions sometimes affecting not just the victim, but also many others causing collateral damage that can be extensive.
Take lying for example. Narcissists lie quite often to distort reality, gaslight, and keep people on their toes or walking on eggshells. Have you experienced this? Unfortunately, they are very believable so the subtle emotional weapon is invisible, so to speak. Only after many rounds of confusion does the victim possibly understand that something is wrong or awry. Through the distortion and smoke screens lies the truth, however, the truth is rarely uncovered especially without the knowledge of their hidden deceitful ways.
Emotional weapons are in a way worse than seeing a definite object that is used for a crime. It’s a little hard to distort reality if there is a murder weapon such as a knife or a gun, right? Precious time is wasted on crying, yelling, being angry, and confused due to the invisible nature of their abusive behavior. One result of their emotional abuse that really stands out to me is when a victim looses his or her identity. A lot of times, the ongoing war with a narcissist results in the victim living a life that is the opposite of who they used to be and who they want to be. This is unacceptable!
Are you loosing your identity in your relationship due to invisible emotional weapons being used against you by your partner who is supposed to be your rock, your love and your best friend? Think about it. It’s ok, don’t beat yourself up over it. Invisible can’t be seen, right? You didn’t know.
Emotional weapons are real, horrible, and invisible. Educate yourself about how a narcissist controls you and changes your life. Their cookie-cutter personality isn’t hard to figure out if you know exactly what is happening and why they do what they do. It might be time to be an emotional weapon buster!! Free yourself and get your life back! 🙂
Hope you are having an incredible day! Take care during these very difficult times.