I’ve been researching a lot of things lately and I came across this saying: “The only way out is through it.” It really resonated with me and how appropriate it is of a saying for survivors of domestic abuse. After many decades of life we realize that we go through trials. These trials have a purpose, usually to make us stronger and wiser. Where are you today?
Trials in life are difficult. While we are in the middle of it, sometimes we don’t see the other side. We can’t see it because of the fog. Sometimes that fog is deception like from a narcissist. The desperation, the loss of our identity, the extreme abuse, the lack of sleep, and the confusion that overwhelms us keeps us in it. The lack of energy makes the fight the biggest of our lives. We give up. We settle. We give the benefit of the doubt because it’s so bizarre of a lifestyle and the mean-nice-mean-nice cycle adds to the confusion. The smoke screens, the lies, the charm and the circle of abuse KEEPS US IN IT. So, don’t beat yourself up if you can’t see through it or if you stayed too long.
Narcissists are masters of deception. They are the biggest embellishers around and until you know their cookie cutter tactics you are confused. But today there is hope. Because you know what? The only way to get out of it IS TO GO THROUGH IT! You have to endure, educate yourself, and then get to the other side. There’s hope, because there’s light at the other end of this. Continue to push forward and get help. Take back your power. Take back your dreams. Take back who you are and keep walking forward baby, one step at a time! You can do this!
Blessings,
Ilaya (Author of “The Chameleons Among Us”)
Shedding Light on the Narcissist 