Do most narcissists work or freeload? Either scenario is plausible. Sometimes the more motivated ones work and sometimes they can be lazy and have the victim work.
Why two scenarios you ask? Well, it’s simple. The ones who work often use their job and income to trap the victim. They routinely use their income to not only pay the bills, but also hold over the victim’s head. They will tell the victim that he/she shouldn’t work, but then will later guilt trip them because they don’t work and all of the financial burden is on them. It’s quite a sick game of control and entrapment.
The other scenario is when a narcissist happily stays at home and makes the victim work to pay all of the bills. They use excuses like “I’ll be a stay at home parent,” or “I’ll build us a house,” or “I’ll make us money from home.” Don’t believe a word of it. You will find yourself in financial trouble as the goal posts move constantly. They will force you to work more and more to accommodate their materialistic needs further trapping you into a life of complete financial hell.
Get educated and always have a skill so you can get out. If they aren’t pulling their weight it’s a red flag. It they force you to not work, it’s a red flag. Seek help and use the internet to get a skill/degree so you can control your own life. It’s not too late to make a move to better yourself and to ensure a bright future.
Good luck. Happy thoughts to you and your family.